Can dyslexia bring fear and rejection phobia?

Definition of Fear - An unpleasant emotion caused by threat, panic, danger, pain,etc
Definition of Rejection - The dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc

This is a question many people ask, We all may face dyslexia in different ways however one thing that we may all have in common is not being understood, feeling silly with the constant errors, not having an understanding on how we see words and how we read, why we find it challenging to absorb information, why our brain keeps racing constantly, the list can go on and on..... At school I never got 10 out of 10 in any academic studies I done not one, so to me I was forever failing, I never knew how it felt to have a 60% or above on my papers, if you didn't get 80% upwards then it was basically a fail, when I got older I chose to try my best not to do anything where there had to be a win of fail.

Something was raised in my subconscious recently which awoken my awareness of fear and rejection regarding my journey in life, I challenged these thoughts and feelings and realised it came right back to my dyslexia traits.

I asked myself some questions with regards to my company:
Why is it I didn't like selling?
Why did I find marketing a bore?
Why was I uncomfortable when people unsubscribed?
When I went through these questions and broke them down to the core, I realised it was coming from a place of fear and rejection, not just from my company but from the whole of my life I was living in a home of fear and rejection of some sort. Now you maybe asking what has this got to do with dyslexia.

From when I was young to adult life I was never comfortable with competing in competitions, don't get me wrong I was happy to compete with someone or people but never on my own, I had a fear of failing, I knew I took extremely long to figure out things (dyslexia trait) so going into a competition alone I knew I would not win first time and did not want to experience the feeling of losing so never put myself in that situation, despite this feeling I was fine if I lost within a group, for some reason that made me feel safe and not alone. This brings me back to my company, and how I felt when people would unsubscribe I would feel a form of lost and rejection (how ridiculous was that lol).

Marketing seemed to be a bore for me, I found it confusing and could never get organised with what I was trying to market (disorganisation dyslexia trait) I didn't want to go on a course as I knew my concentration span would not hold, anything I wasn't passionate about my concentration skills would be a challenge. To me marketing meant the action of promoting, selling something, including market research and advertising, an action where I needed feed back from people, a response again I wasn't keen on experiencing, you see it would put me back in that place of fear and rejection. I made that place my home for most of my life (which I didn't realise) it became my comfort and safe blanket so what I was fearing I was actually attracting.

Throughout my life everything I wanted to create I made sure it didn't grow big enough for the feeling of fear and rejection to manifest, the problem with this was my creations wasn't able to have the freedom to grow, this had to change.

I decided to leave my home of fear and rejection around dyslexia and business and move to a home of acceptance, what I put into that home was very important to me as I knew it wouldn't just help myself but others always.

Things that are now in my acceptance home:
1. Feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
2. To have the confident and patients to take time when completing anything, even if it means not getting to that so called winning line in the time that you had hoped.
3. Replacing the word selling something to sharing something.
4. Giving love to fear and rejection as without it's energy growth cannot appear.
5. It's OK for people to not be interested in your products, information, sharing/selling and unsubscribing you lol.
6. To re-member the balance of choice, a special gift that is given to us all.
7. Zoe to learn marketing first before getting a colleague to take over (this new home was really challenging me lol)

 Every single being at some stage has experienced fear and rejection it's how we choose to deal with it that determines the impact it will have on our life.

So the question to you is, can dyslexia bring fear and rejection phobia?

Creative Tutors - Dyslexia for the Wise

Creative Tutors - Dyslexia for the Wise

Marketing and Promoting Officer

Marketing and Promoting Officer

The ARCS Programme starting January 2017

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THE ARCS PROGRAMME. a Reading and Spelling 12 Week Programme for children who are dyslexic or have other learning challenges.

https://youtu.be/oTN-z92-lYo

Dyslexia for the Wise Website

http://www.dyslexiaforthewise.org/

THE ARCS PROGRAMME!

I decided to set up a Creative Reading and Spelling Programme for children who are dyslexic or have other learning challenges.
After supporting many children with dyslexia and ADHD, I noticed a pattern occurring, they all were saying they disliked reading and found spelling difficult. These children were intelligent and very creative, this lead me to create the programme called ARCS (which stands for A Reading Creative & Spelling Programme).

And this was what my creative mind created.......

What:

A newly created Programme called ARCS (A Reading, Creative and Spelling Programme) 12 week sessions that is aimed at children with or traits of Dyslexia and other learning challenges.

Your child does not have to be diagnosed with dyslexia to attend this course if you feel that your child is behind with their reading or spelling for their age, then this Programme could be of some help. 

Why: 

ARCS will help each child to become an independent learner and create the necessary skills needed to read and spell therefore enhancing their positive attitude to studying and correcting their behaviour. 

When:

The 12 week programme will run during term time in the following months January, April and September, it will last for 1 hour and will run back to back starting with Primary (aged 6-10yrs) and then followed by Secondary (aged 11-15yrs). 

 Where:

This is a community based programme in Wandsworth  aimed at parents who are unable to afford private tuition for their child/children who are or maybe Dyslexic or have other learning challenges  for example ADHA, Dyspraxia and Dysgraphia. 

The structure of this programme is designed to help children with behaviour difficulties due to their learning challenges. 

How:

Every child is different, and some embrace academic studies in a more creative way, we found that more children who are dyslexic or have other learning challenges work in this way best.

The reading and spelling programme allow students to develop creative learning skills and increases self-motivation, giving them the tools to build their confidence at school and at home.

Through our ARCS unique creative method children who experience learning challenges are supported to reach high level of reading and spelling within a period of time.

Our style of method is through repetition, patience, time, Goal Setting, Videos, activities, role plays and group discussions, keeping it active, formative and structured.

This will allow them to develop new learning strategies to deal effectively with new challenges that may occur when it comes to reading out loud and spelling words.

The sessions consist of half an hour creative reading role play sessions and half an hour of creative spelling activities, as absorbing to much information for a child with learning challenges can make the brain shut down, short bites are often more effective.

So there you have it, if you know anyone that might benefit from this programme, please share....

THE ARCS PROGRAMME

Is your child Dyslexic?
Does your child need more support with reading and spelling?
The 12 Week ARCS Programme may be for your child.
THE ARCS PROGRAMME STARTING JANUARY 2017 AT THE S.T.O.R.M FAMILY CENTRE IN WANDSWORTH.
For more information call: 07449 413 000

Mind Mapping and Dyslexia

When I was younger, completing homework was a challenge for me, I just didn't seem to understand what needed to be done, no matter how much the teacher explained the task I could never comprehend what was being said. Many years later I found out I was Dyslexic, was I surprised....? not at all, I new I had many traits but put it down to me being Epileptic.

When I decided to go back to studying I new the only way I was going to complete anything, I needed to make it creative and some how exciting, a technique that would keep me focused.

Then I got introduced to Mind Mapping........

A mind map is a graphical way to represent ideas and concepts. It is a visual thinking tool that helps structuring information, helping you to better analyse, comprehend, synthesis, recall and generate new ideas. Just as in every great idea, its power lies in its simplicity.
For a dyslexic person, it helps to brainstorm and put our ideas on to paper (or on the computer).

The great thing about mind maps, is that you can write your idea's down or picture phrase them (meaning to draw your ideas down). This gives me the flexibility to choose weather to write or draw depending on my creativity at the time. It helps to break the subject or topic down into small bites, making it easier to write long pieces of work and complete it.
I have spoken to many people who are dyslexic or have other learning challenges, and found mind mapping a very good tool.

I know mind mapping is not for everyone, but if you are dyslexic and thinking of other ways to maybe complete your work, why not try it, give it a go......

Oh my, must dash, left the dinner on........ 

THE S.T.O.P TARGETS FOR YOUNG PEOPLE

Hi,

I’m the founder and Creative Managing Director for Dyslexia for the Wise. I decided to set up this charity for Young People and Adults as I felt there was still a negative stigma of what Dyslexia actually was.

Dyslexia is a condition that affects the brain which means Dyslexic people use the right side of the brain (the creative side) more of the time and find the left side (the academic side) challenging at times.  Understanding this and doing research started to make me think....

I am a Dyslexia Practitioner, Life Coach, Mentor and Foster Carer, while working with young people I found that the Dyslexic children I was working with were finding it very difficult to complete work, take in and store information and having to remember things was a great pain.

I woke up one morning and it came to me, to create a goal setting target just like the SMART targets but one for Dyslexic people. This goal setting target would be for completing school work, ways to stop the brain racing, taking time and focusing on confidence and motivation. I thought to myself “ YES now let’s get all these ideas down on paper” that was the first step.

 Here I would like to share with you the S.T.O.P targets, each letter is a word that is very important when having this condition Dyslexia.

Strategies

With each home work or essay, make sure strategies are put in place, making them clear and short, sometimes long pieces of work can be too much for a Dyslexic person who has challenges with their attention span.

Time

Take your time when completing work. The quicker you try and rush, the more errors will be made.

Organise

Organisation is key. The more organise you are the more your mind is clear and has the room for peace, focus and then completion.

Patience

Be patient. There are going to be times when frustration arises, take deep breaths, go for a walk or leave it all together until later, this way your mind is fresh again to continue.

So here you have it, the STOP targets, what will you do with it? How will you integrate it into your Work at school or University? Why not give it a try and see if it works for you.

FOR YOUNG PEOPLE:

Here are a couple tips on how you can include this technique for your school/college work:

·         Each work you have to do, create a Mind map first to get all your ideas down on paper – this is good structure to have when you want to be organised.

·         Have a vision board in your room – post stick notes or pictures of things placed on your vision board so you can remember what you want to do and put in, regarding your school work.

·         Set a time/goal of when you want to complete your work (this can be stuck on your vision board also)

·         Put the STOP TARGET up in your room so you remember the steps

I hope this will help you just that little bit more when doing your school or college work.

By the way I would like to share with you my gift in life.......................I am also Dyslexic.

Zoe Joseph-Pennant

Website: dyslexiaforthewise.org

“Nothing is impossible once you put that unique mind to it”

Dyslexia has no limits.